Surviving betrayal trauma is challenging. If you’ve just discovered your husband’s infidelity, here’s what you need to know.
If you’re surviving betrayal trauma, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.
Finding out your husband has been unfaithful can turn your world upside down. You might feel lost, hurt, and unsure of what to do next. Remember, you’re not alone.
1. Understand What Causes Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal trauma isn’t just about the infidelity. It’s caused by emotional and psychological abuse.
When your husband lies or hides things from you, that’s psychological abuse. And when he lies to make you feel like it’s your fault, that’s emotional abuse.
To learn more about this type of abuse, listen to The Free Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast.
2. Choose the Right Support For Surviving Betrayal Trauma
Most therapists or counselors don’t understand the true cause of betrayal trauma.
Many aren’t equipped to help you know how to deal with the emotional abuse that you’ve suffered.
The trained coaches at Betrayal Trauma Recovery understand this type of abuse and can hold your hand every step of the way. You’ll never be blamed or shamed for what happened to you.
3. Find A Healing Betrayal Trauma Community
Connect with a community of women who have experience betrayal trauma.
They can offer support, share their stories, and help you learn how to survive and thrive after betrayal trauma. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.
You don’t have to go through this alone. Lean on friends, family, or professionals who can support you through this process. Healing takes time, but with the right support, you can move forward.
4. Prioritize Your Safety
Focus on your emotional and psychological safety.
To know your level of safety, you need to determine what’s really going on.
The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop will help you determine your husband’s true character.
5. Use Safety Strategies
The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop will also teach you emotional and psychological safety strategies.
If you’ve just discovered your husband’s infidelity, these strategies will help you survive betrayal trauma.
“The most important person that needs you alive and well is yourself.”
– Anne Blythe, M.ED. founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
6. Make Self-Care a Priority
Self-care might feel overwhelming, but it’s essential for surviving betrayal trauma due to your husband’s infidelity. Here’s how you can start:
- Nutrition: Aim to eat at least one healthy meal each day.
- Hydration: Make sure you’re drinking enough water throughout the day.
- Rest: If you’re having trouble sleeping at night, try to rest during the day when you can.
- Mindfulness: Take a moment to breathe deeply and relax. Over time, this can help bring back a sense of peace.
7. Start Dreaming Again
Think about what kind of life you want to create for yourself. This might involve new goals, hobbies, or changes in your life. It’s important to focus on your future and what makes you happy.
Remember, surviving betrayal trauma is a journey. It’s okay to take it one day at a time and to seek help when you need it. You’re strong, and you can get through this.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions run multiple times a day. We hope to see you in a session soon.
Thank you for speaking out on such a tough subject! Self-care is easier taught than lived in on-going trauma. I really appreciate hearing Trish’s views and story!
Thanks for your comment. It’s amazing how difficult self-care is when healing from emotional and psychological abuse and ongoing sexual coercion!
I need this support right now and I will keep listening . It is helpful to understand all that I have been through and recovering from right now. I am on the other side of most of the pain and trying to heal. Learning how important self-care is to our health has been monumental. I am still in the process. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for listening!
I also want to say, the pandemic made me stop and realize the hamster wheel of stress that I was on as a reaction to the relationship stress. Jackson McKenzie calls it,” The Protective Self”. I was in survival mode and taking on far too much in my life. It wasn’t what I needed to be doing ( to the extent I had taken my work.) I appreciate this information about self-care so I can decipher what I really need to heal. And so, I have letting myself have some downtime, hiking in nature , etc. It has been so much more effective. And, now, I am seeing how I can create a balance. YES!!!
Thank you for sharing your experience with emotional abuse!
I have been betrayed by a coach from Visible Ministries (found out one of the coaches has been coaching my husband to leave the marriage). How utterly devastating!