Wondering how to have the sex talk with your kids? Here are a few ideas to help you be a safe place for your kids to turn for sex education.

1. The Sex Talk: You Don’t Have To Be An Expert

Having the “sex talk” with your kids can feel daunting, especially in today’s world where children are exposed to a myriad of information—accurate or not—about sexuality.

First things first, you don’t need to be a sex education expert to talk to your kids about sex. The aim is to provide accurate information and foster an environment where your kids feel comfortable asking questions.

Tip: Practice active listening. Encourage questions and answer them honestly, using age-appropriate language. It’s okay to admit if you’re unsure and suggest finding the answer together. This builds trust and shows that learning is a continuous process.

You are the best person to have the sex talk with your child. You can do this!

2. There Are Great Resources To Help You Have The Sex Talk

Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone, and thankfully, there are resources available to assist you. Educate and Empower Kids offers a wealth of materials, which provide structured guidance on how to approach different topics.

Resources include:

• 30 Days of Sex Talks for Kids (referenced in this episode)
• Parent Resources, including questions & answers, tips, videos, and lessons
• The Educate and Empower Kids Video Library

Using these tools, you can ensure your child receives well-rounded and accurate information.

3. Wherever you are on your journey to teaching your children about healthy sexuality, remember that it’s never too early or too late.

At BTR, we understand how sensitive and difficult this topic can be for mothers. It’s important to remember that talking about sex isn’t a one-time event but an ongoing conversation. Regardless of your child’s age, starting or continuing these discussions can positively impact their understanding and attitudes toward sex.

Remember: Offer yourself compassion and support as you educate your children. Consider attending a Betrayal Trauma Group Session to connect with other parents navigating similar challenges.

4. Moms Can Have The Sex Talk With Kids (It Doesn’t Have To Be Dad:)

All that matters is that you care. Moms are enough, even if Dad isn’t around to help.

When it comes to talking about sex, open communication is key. Moms can create a safe space for their kids to ask questions, providing honest and age-appropriate information.

Even if you’re divorced, staying approachable and supportive encourages your children to feel comfortable discussing sensitive topics with you.

5. “If I don’t say anything, They Won’t Notice” Isn’t a Thing When it Comes to Sex Education

Avoidance won’t stop your kids from learning about sex—it’ll just mean they learn from less reliable sources. Silence can lead children to seek information elsewhere, which might not always be accurate or safe.

Action: Proactively engage with your children about sexuality and related topics. Address misconceptions and provide them with the tools to discern fact from fiction.

6. Giving Children Correct Information About Sex Will Help Them Make Healthy Decisions

Providing accurate, age-appropriate information empowers children to make informed decisions regarding their bodies and relationships. Explain how their bodies work, the concept of mutuality, and the importance of respectful relationships.

Key Point:

• Clarify that pornography is not education. Discuss its potential harms and emphasize that while curiosity is natural, not all sources are trustworthy or healthy.

Talking to your kids about sex is an essential step in ensuring they grow up with a healthy understanding of sexuality.

By being open, honest, and supportive, you can guide them toward making informed decisions.

If you’ve been betrayed by your husband’s pornography use or sexual infidelity, and you’re struggling to know what to say to your children, attending a Betrayal Trauma Group Sessions to connect with other moms navigating this same challenge.