"Should Feminists Hate Pornography? Yes. Here’s Why"

Pornography is anti-woman and anti-feminist. Learn more.

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    Pornography isn’t entertainment, it’s the exploitation and commercialization of women’s bodies – and that makes pornography a feminist issue. One of the reasons that pornography is dangerous is because its very nature is anti-woman.

    There is not now, never has been, and never will be a feminist case for men to commercialize the bodies of women.

    Rachelle Morran, Trafficking Victim

    Because Pornography Hurts Women That Makes Pornography A Feminist Issue

    Feminists have long argued that pornography is harmful to women. They see it as an extension of the patriarchy that perpetuates systemic oppression. Feminists believe that pornography dehumanizes and objectifies women, reducing them to mere commodities for male consumption.

    At Betrayal Trauma Recovery, wives of pornography users share their stories of betrayal, emotional and psychological abuse.

    We know pornography is a feminist issue because his porn use affects our relationship, our children. It affects my life in deep and profound ways.

    Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session Client

    Feminism Means Upholding Women as a Class

    Feminism, at its core, is about advocating for women as a collective group. This means challenging any system or practice that oppresses women. Pornography does just that. It portrays women in submissive roles and reinforces harmful gender stereotypes. By opposing pornography, feminists uphold the dignity and equality of all women.

    Pornography is a feminist issue because it impacts women on multiple levels. It affects how women are perceived in society, how they are treated in personal relationships, and even their opportunities for professional advancement. The normalization of pornographic content has far-reaching consequences that feminists cannot ignore.

    Why Feminism Does Not Support Pornography

    Feminism does not support porn because it undermines the movement’s goals. Feminism aims to dismantle patriarchal structures and promote gender equality. Pornography, however, reinforces these structures by perpetuating misogynistic ideals and behaviors.

    Because Pornography Does Not Support Women’s Equality That Makes Pornography A Feminist Issue

    One of the primary goals of feminism is to achieve equality for women. Pornography works against this goal by portraying women as inferior and submissive. It sends a message that women’s primary value lies in their appeal, not their intellect, skills, or capabilities.

    Women in Pornography Often Don’t Have Options

    Many women who enter the pornography industry do so out of necessity or trafficking, not choice. They may be driven by financial desperation, lack of education, or past trauma. This lack of options makes it difficult to argue that their participation is empowering. Instead, it highlights the need for systemic change to provide better opportunities for women.

    Because “Sex-Work” Is Coercion That Makes Pornography A Feminist Issue

    The debate extends to this kind of work in general. Some argue it can be empowering if it’s consensual and safe. However, radical feminists contend that the majority of this kind of work, including pornography, is exploitative. They argue that true empowerment comes from dismantling the systems that force women into these roles in the first place.

    Feminism Aims to Dismantle Oppression Against Women

    At its heart, feminism aims to end all forms of oppression against women. Pornography is a tool of oppression. It perpetuates myths about female intimacy and validates harmful, often violent, behaviors towards women. By opposing pornography, feminists take a stand against all forms of female oppression.

    Because Pornography Is Oppressive That Makes Pornography A Feminist Issue

    Pornography is inherently oppressive. It often involves the exploitation of women, many of whom have little choice but to participate. The industry is rife with stories of abuse, coercion, and manipulation. This oppressive nature makes it incompatible with feminist ideals.

    Feminism Helps Women Break Through Oppression

    Feminism provides women with the tools and support they need to break free from oppressive systems. By opposing pornography, feminists help to dismantle one of the many structures that keep women subjugated.

    Pornography Is Harmful to Women

    Research shows that pornography is harmful to women both within and outside the industry. It contributes to unrealistic expectations of intimacy and relationships, which can lead to dissatisfaction and abuse. Women in the industry often face severe physical and emotional harm, further proving that porn is detrimental to women’s well-being.

    Secret Pornography Use Is Abuse & Intimate Coercion

    When men secretly use pornography, it creates an environment of deceit and coercion. This behavior can be emotionally abusive, leading to feelings of betrayal and inadequacy in their partners. Feminists argue that transparency and respect in relationships are crucial, and secret porn use violates these principles.

    Feminists Do Not Support Pornography Use

    Given all these points, it’s clear why feminists do not support pornography use. It goes against the very principles of gender equality and respect for women. By opposing pornography, feminists advocate for a healthier, more respectful view of sexuality.

    Historically, Pornography Has Been Considered Anti-Feminist

    Historically, the feminist movement has viewed pornography as anti-feminist. Leaders like Gloria Steinem have spoken out against it, highlighting its role in perpetuating violence against women. This historical context reinforces the argument that pornography and feminism are fundamentally incompatible.

    Because Pornography Objectifies & Dehumanizes Women That Makes Pornography A Feminist Issue

    Pornography reduces women to objects of male desire. It strips them of their humanity and individuality, turning them into mere commodities. This objectification is dehumanizing and goes against the feminist principle of respecting women’s autonomy and dignity.

    Pornography is undeniably a feminist issue. It reinforces harmful stereotypes, perpetuates violence and exploitation, and undermines the goals of gender equality. For women married to men who use pornography, this issue is particularly pressing. By understanding the impact of pornography and taking a stand against it, feminists can continue to fight for a world where all women are respected and valued. If you need support or want to learn more, consider reaching out to organizations like Betrayal Trauma Recovery, which offer resources and guidance for women facing these challenges.

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      7 Comments

      1. Mia Mantello

        Excellent. I so appreciate this and, as a therapist, will be sharing it with my clients and colleagues.

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        • Anne Blythe

          Thank you for your work with victims of abuse – most therapists don’t understand that pornography is abusive to a spouse. Thank you!

          Reply
      2. Dovid B

        Thanks for this episode. It definitely hits the nail on the head. I found the values issue of hiding porn interesting. I grew up in a feminist home and consider myself a feminist is many ways. Additionally, I am a sexaholic and have watched lots of abusive porn towards women. I know that my values and actions totally did not match up but felt powerless to live in accordance with my values. Basically, trying to say that if a sex addict is willing to work a program and get honest in recovery, sexual compatibility can be built over time. Additionally, most addicts are not able to live their values during active addiction.

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        • Anne Blythe

          David, thank you for your comments about how watching porn harmed you and your family. I’m so glad you’re getting help.

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      3. Shelby Anderson

        I don’t think I have ever had a healthy relationship. Not one! I grew up in a house An alcoholic. I was kicked out a16 and I was so glad. I ended up quitting school and supporting a physically abusive bf. When I finally left for the last time at 19 I decided to be a stripper bc I felt empowered. Here I am 39, I thought I picked a safe man. He’s so addicted to porn that he cannot be intimate with me on any level! We have a son who is almost 7. I am scared to death I won’t be able to find a way to support myself an raise my son to respect women. BTR has been a blessing to listen to this past week. Thank You

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      4. Anonymous

        Thanks for this. Married almost 40 years, and I’m currently visiting my children and grandchildren overseas.

        Within five hours of me leaving, my husband was acting out in his sex addiction (even though he promised he’d stopped). He says he’s not an addict. He swears he would never ever look at porn again, that he has no interest in it anymore.

        But then he does this sick stuff while I’m gone, and he isn’t even aware that I know what he’s doing. He watches sick stuff and does sick stuff to himself watching it. I feel like I’m walking around in shock and questioning my take on reality.

        How’s it possible that a man can make promises, swear he’s never going to do such stuff ever again but continue doing it every opportunity he gets? Sadly, I realized too late that he is not trustworthy. I had told him that he needs to prove he can be trusted if we are to be be married again in the true sense of the word. We’ve been in-house separated since July (the last time I caught him acting out) and since then, until I left to visit family last Sunday, he has put on a fantastic Christian mask.

        I even got hopeful that perhaps, just perhaps change is possible as there seemed to be a tiny bit of evidence of some change. He reads his Bible, prays and pretends to be this fantastic born-again, spirit filled, tongue talking, demon disturbing man of God. Hope is dangerous when your husband is a master at lying and secrecy.

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