Learning how to set boundaries in an emotionally abusive relationship may feel confusing and overwhelming. But here at BTR.ORG, we know that with the proper tools – including support and self-compassion – you can master boundary-setting and begin your journey to emotional safety and healing.

Elsa, a member of the BTR.ORG community, shares how she learned to set boundaries with her emotionally abusive husband.

Setting Boundaries With Your Emotionally Abusive Husband Will Establish Greater Safety

Have you ever tried to set boundaries expecting more safety and security, only to feel more exposed to harm than ever?

That’s because traditional boundary-setting models simply don’t work in abuse scenarios. Learn how to set boundaries the effective way by enrolling in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop.

Telling the abuser what you need to feel safe is often touted by relationship “professionals” as a solution to emotional abuse, when in reality, they usually keep victims exposed to harmful situations.

The BTR.ORG Living Free and Message Workshops Actually Work With An Emotionally Abusive Husband

We created the BTR.ORG Boundaries Model because we want victims to actually experience greater emotional and psychological safety.

Effective Boundaries in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship are:

• Courageous actions that evolve to fit the needs of the victim
• Often unspoken
• Essential to emotional and psychological safety.

Boundaries are NOT:

• If-then statements given to the abuser verbally or in writing
• A statement of ones values, or of what a person hopes for or needs
• An expected behavior with an attached consequence or threat.

How Do I Learn to Set Boundaries in My Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

Establishing effective safety boundaries is new territory for many women who find BTR.

If you’re wondering how to begin this process, ask yourself these questions:

• What actions can I take today to begin creating more emotional & psychological safety for myself?
• How will I learn effective strategies to keep expanding my emotional & psychological safety? (The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop teaches you, step-by-step, exactly how to establish and maintain effective boundaries in an emotionally abusive relationship)
• Where will I seek support as I begin the process of establishing safety boundaries? (We recommend BTR.ORG Group Sessions)