Victims of betrayal and abuse deserve a completely safe space to process trauma, openly speak truths, ask hard questions, and receive validation. What is the best betrayal trauma support group? Here are 4 things to look for . . .
1. Is Your Emotional & Psychologial Safety The Top Priority?
The best betrayal trauma support group will make your safety the top priority. No matter if you’ve discovered your husband’s betrayal today or been on your healing journey for decades.
Here are some indications that a betrayal trauma support group isn’t safe:
- They don’t identify what the trauma is from
- They don’t identify you as a victim of emotional and psychological abuse
- You’re encouraged to not make any decisions that would distance yourself from the abuser
- Maybe they ask you to ignore what your husband is doing that is harming you
Here are some indications that the betrayal trauma support group IS safe:
- No one cares about what’s going to happen to the abuser or how you getting to safety will affect him.
- You are validated.
- The other women in the group have been through what you’ve been through, and so they understand it on a very personal level.
- You’re not made to feel like your deficient or that you did anything wrong.
In our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions, abuse is abuse. We’ll never blame you for any of it.
2. They Do Not Offer Services For Abusive Men
Before you start attending a support group for betrayal trauma, make sure the professional you’re going to doesn’t offer services for abusive men. True experts on emotional and psychological abuse know that working with abuse victims AND abusers simultaneously is unethical
If any therapist or program lets you know that they offer services for abusive men, you can know that’s not a support group for betrayal trauma that will be safe for you.
3. No One Will Ask You To Look Into What Part You Played
Unlike traditional sex addiction therapists, we do not use the codependency model. We use the abuse model. This means we’ll never label you “codependent.” Too many therapists and clergy focus their energies on blaming the victim, rather than accurately treating the betrayal as abuse.
If you go to a support group for betrayal trauma, and anyone there even suggests you played some part in your own emotional and psychological abuse, this is not a group that understands abuse.
To avoid a support group that blames the victim, before you go, ask someone who goes to the group what the “trauma” you need a support group for is from. If they don’t say emotional and psychological abuse and sexual coercion, don’t try to convice them. Just move on.
4. They Trust You To Follow Your Own Intuition
If the betrayal trauma support group mentions or implies that you’re too sick or diseased or weak to follow your own intuition, it’s not ethically run.
One of the hallmarks for abuse is undermining a woman’s confidence. If they’re telling to you “trust” them or they know better than you, look elsewhere.
Women make a lot of progress by enrolling in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop that gives women lessons and exercises to get back in touch with theselves, so they can make decisions that are in their best interest.
If you’re looking for the best betrayal trauma support group, Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions are facilitated by specially trained betrayal trauma specialists who understand this type of abuse. We’d love to see you in a Session TODAY.
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