Separating from an emotionally abusive husband is already incredibly challenging, but divorce without family support can feel impossible. This guide offers practical advice and encouragement for women who are taking this brave step alone.
Understanding Divorce Without Family Support
Divorce without family support means ending a marriage when your family can’t or won’t help you emotionally, logistically, or financially during this tough time. This might happen because of cultural beliefs, family siding with your partner, or not understanding the abuse you’ve faced.
The Challenges You May Face
Being emotionally hurt by your husband is really tough, and it’s even tougher if your family doesn’t support you. It can make you feel alone and helpless. You might be afraid of legal problems, worry about what others think, or find it hard to get help when you need it the most.
No Support From Family? Create Your Own Support Network
If you’re leaving an abusive marriage without family support, it’s important to find a new support network. Instead of being alone, look for and build friendships with people who can help and encourage you.
What is a “Safe Person”?
A safe person is someone who:
- Validates your feelings
- Encourages you to trust your gut and intuition
- Refuses to engage with your abuser
- Offers a consistent sense of calmness and acceptance
But What if I Don’t Even Have ONE Person?
If you don’t currently have anyone who fits this description, you’re not alone. Many women have started from scratch to build their support circles. Here are some steps you can take to begin:
- Join a local club or group of women who enjoy what you enjoy: hiking, quilting, cooking. Some women have good experiences finding support in women from their church congregations or gym.
- Attend BTR.ORG Group Sessions: Listening to other women can help you understand what a safe person sounds like and how to share your experiences.
- Engage with Online Communities: BTR.ORG’s social media channels on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook offer ways to connect with like-minded women.
Practical Steps to Navigate Divorce Without Family Support
Secure Legal Help: Legal advice helps you know your rights and choices. Search for free legal services or organizations that help women in abusive situations. Your local domestic violence shelter can suggest good legal resources.
Financial Independence: Financial abuse often happens in abusive marriages. Start by getting some control over your money. Open a bank account in your name, secretly save some money, and talk to a financial advisor who knows about divorce.
At this difficult time, consider the community resources available to you: food stamps, the local food pantry, and other programs exist to help women in your exact situation.
Self-Care and Healing
Your emotional well-being is paramount. Engage in self-care activities that promote healing and peace. This can include:
- Journaling your thoughts and feelings
- Practicing mindfulness and meditation
- Engaging in physical activities like yoga or walking
- Connecting with nature
The Community You Need At The Time You Need
Betrayal Trauma Recovery (BTR.ORG) has lots of resources to help you with your divorce. They offer group sessions and one-on-one coaching. You can get support from women who have gone through similar things.
Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session for immediate support and connection with other women facing similar challenges.
For more personalized support, consider scheduling an Individual Session with one of our specially trained Betrayal Trauma Coaches.
Online Community
Engage with our vibrant online community on platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook. Share your story, get advice, and find solidarity.
Going through a divorce without family support is hard, but it shows your strength. By finding friends to help, getting legal and money advice, and taking care of your feelings, you can work towards a safer and happier future.
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