How to deal with verbal abuse from husband? Here are 5 ways to gain emotional safety quickly.

1. What Do I DO When I Realize It’s Abuse?

Many women realize their husband is abusive when they get educated about abuse. If you’re wondering if your husband is verbally abusive, start your journey to emotional safety by listening to the FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast.

Women from across the globe say that’s all they needed. “Listening to the BTR Podcast was more helpful than 6 years of therapy!” said one listener.

2. Here’s Why You DON’T Tell Your Husband He’s Abusive

While the urge to confront your husband about his abusive behavior is natural, doing so can often lead to more subtle and manipulative forms of abuse. It’s important to remember that informing him of his behavior may not result in the desired change. Instead, it can lead to more covert and damaging tactics.

Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG, advises, “When you confront them, all they hear is, ‘I need to deceive better, I need to manipulate better, I need to groom better.’ It puts you in a position to be groomed more.”

3. Prioritize Your Emotional Safety

Many women tell their abuser about their behavior with the hope that it will prompt change and save the marriage. However, a grown man should inherently know that lying, manipulation, gaslighting, yelling, and intimidation are wrong.

If you find yourself repeatedly explaining these behaviors to him, understand that he is manipulating you. Your priority should be to seek safety, not to change him.

4. Seek The Right Support

You don’t need to go through this alone, but you need the right support. Couple therapy or therapists who don’t understand this type of abuse will worsen the situation. Seek support from organizations like BTR.ORG, which offers group sessions tailored for women experiencing betrayal and verbal abuse. They provide a safe space to share experiences and begin the healing process.

5. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries

One of the most challenging aspects of establishing emotional safety is learning how to set boundaries. Remember, it’s okay to move at your own pace.

Many women benefit from taking time to figure out their husband’s true character. The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop gives women strategies to create enough space to figure out what’s going on with her husband.

Once you determine what’s really going on, you’ll know what’s best in your situation.

The path to emotional safety in a verbally abusive marriage begins with learning emotional safety strategies.

You’re not alone. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session or schedule an individual session with one of their experienced coaches.