Wondering how to recover from divorce as a woman? Here are 6 steps you haven’t thought of before that can make all the difference.

If you’re trying to recover from divorce as a woman, consider attending a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session. Our sessions are women only, and will give you the support you need to rebuild your life.

1. As A Woman, Understanding What Actually Caused The Divorce Is Key To Recovering

Many women were so gaslit and manipulated so much in their marriage that they don’t actually know what the true cause of the divorce was.

To understand the true cause of your divorce, it’s important to be educated about emotional, psychological, spiritual and financial abuse. To learn more, listen to The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast.

2. To Recover From Divorce As A Woman, You Need To Understand Grooming

Understanding grooming is a significant step toward recovery.

Grooming involves creating a false, idealized version of reality to keep you in a fog of abuse. This tactic often includes phases of “nice” behavior, known as love bombing or manipulative kindness. It’s important to know that these “nice” times were part of the abuse cycle, designed to keep you believing in a false narrative.

Sometimes these periods of “good” behavior are referred to as:

• Love bombing
• The honeymoon period
• Manipulative kindness
• Hoovering

Rather than living in a false reality that he’s a nice person who sometimes slips into abusive behaviors, healing can happen when women accept that the “nice” times were simply an effective grooming mechanism to manipulate her.

To learn more about your ex’s true character and what really happened, enroll in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workhop.

3. To Recover From Divorce As A Woman, Look At The Patterns (Not “Potential”)

Abusers often promise change but rarely follow through permanently.

To heal from the confusion,focus on the patterns of behavior rather than what “could have been”.

Align yourself with the reality of the situation, rather than what you hope or are promised it could be.

Surround yourself with a strong support system, such as a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session, to help ground yourself in reality.

4. Recovering Divorce Is A Process Of Building The Concept of Realistic Healing

Realistic recovery from divorce as a woman involves returning to the present again and again. It’s okay if you’re sad in the present, or today you want to stay in bed. Be with yourself where you are.

Becoming a safe place for you to rebuild at your own pace will give you the space and confidence to build a life you choose.

5. As A Woman, There Will Be Grief When You Let Him Become The Miserable Mess He Is

Recognize that your ex-partner was likely only as capable or enjoyable as you managed him to be and that now, without your help, he’s a miserable mess – which highlights the truth of his character.

Rather than mourning for a man who exploited and used you, consider that he can now be the miserable mess he’s always been.

6. Say Yes To A Wonderful Life You Didn’t Want

Perhaps the hardest step is saying yes to a life you didn’t plan for.

Divorce was likely not what you envisioned, but accepting your new reality opens up opportunities for growth. Tentatively, but steadily, say yes to healing, forging a new path that aligns with your well-being. From a faith-based perspective, this acceptance aligns with the divine plan for your life.

By following these steps, you can start to see your divorce not as a failure but as an opportunity.

Remember, you’re not alone. For personalized guidance, consider attending a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session to connect with others who understand your journey.