When emotional abuse gets inside your head, it takes everything to stay in truth, hold to reality, and remember your worth. Here are 3 power phrases for emotional abuse victims that work.
1. I Have A Choice, And I’m Choosing . . .
When victims adopt the power phrase, “I have a choice, and I’m choosing . . . “, they start to realize that they can act in a way that protects themselves.
To learn safety strategies for protecting yourself from emotional abuse, enroll in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop.
2. I Choose Community Over Isolation
One of the most devastating tactics of emotional abusers is isolation. When emotional abusers successfully isolate victims from family and friends, they’re able to better manage the victim’s perception of reality.
When victims choose community over isolation, they are actively choosing reality over distortion.
The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop helps victims create space to see reality.
3. I Honor My Emotions
Anger, fear, frustration, grief, joy, and delight.
Emotional Abuser condition victims to believe that emotions are stupid, weak, or even dangerous.
It takes courage and dignity for victims to choose to honor their emotions and express them in healthy ways.
Specifically, victims can choose to honor their anger.
Anne Blythe, M.Ed The Host of The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast shares:
“Someone might say, ‘Well, you’re so angry,’ and it’s true, you are angry. But they’re implying thing something’s wrong with anger. The truth is that anger is awesome. Your anger is welcome here at BTR.ORG because your anger is justified in this situation.”
Anne Blythe, Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
At BTR, we understand how difficult it is to reclaim reality during and after emotional abuse. That’s why we’re here.
To help you. To support you. To believe you.
You’re not alone.
I’m very confused. After doing BTR a few years ago I struggle what abuse really is. After a marriage of 18 years (7 cheating events) I’m not with a cheater. He was very loyal to his wife for 35 years. My concern is his anger. I have to add that I continue to make bad choices in my life. At 62 YO I’m afraid to make the same mistake again. Today was an eye opener. He totally went off when he was helping one of my real estate clients. I met him in my car and started crying and told him I was so humiliated. He laughed and told me to not be so dramatic. I froze and my adrenaline went really high. There’s so much more but this is not the first time it’s happened. I dropped him off at his house and came home. I’m emotionally drained from the flight factor and adrenaline rush. There’s so many good things about this man. He does so much for me. Am I being crazy by staying?
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Sounds like you’re a victim of emotional and psychological abuse. All victims can see the “good” things about their abusers. You’re not crazy. Have you considered joining our online support group to process what you’re experiencing?